Central to social competence is the ability to take another person’s perspective and to examine a situation from the view and feelings of the other. This also includes the skill of learning from experience, and applying learning to changes in social situations, sometimes called ‘transfer gain’. Social competence also radiates out from us by way of energy: our thoughts, our feelings, our actions affect all in our environment, and all on our planet. Indeed, even those on the astral are affected by our social competence. Verily, social competence is a foundation of true humanness.
The key point here is that character is observed and surmised from our thoughts, words and actions. So, what thoughts, words and actions go to make up good character? What are the elements of good character? What might we consider necessary in the activities of another person that we might say they are a good and noble person, a person exhibiting human excellence with charisma and character?
Performance character has eight elements.
1. Lifelong learner and critical thinker
2. Diligent and capable performer
3. Socially and emotionally skilled person
4. Ethical thinker
5. Respectful and responsible moral agent committed to consistent moral action
6. Self-disciplined person who pursues a healthy lifestyle
7. Contributing community member and democratic citizen
8. Spiritual person crafting a life of noble purpose
We may say there are eight elements to this inspiring definition of character, but without integrity, we have no character. Bereft of unity of thoughts, words and actions, we are bereft of true humanness, that which distinguishes us from those who behave in demanding – and perhaps, antisocial – ways, and those who behave without reference to other persons nor any values that might unite us. Integrity is this connection, this harmony, this fluidity between our actions, words and thoughts that point to inner harmony and purpose, truth and peace, love and right conduct.
There are many definitions of social competence and social intelligence. The idea behind social competence is that there are many ways to react to situations, and some are more constructive than others. Key skills include a healthy self confidence and a positive attitude. Social competence demonstrates basic courtesy in social situations and develops positive interpersonal relationships that include sensitivity to others and a capacity for dealing with confrontation, or, as the case may demand, creating confrontation to restore right to a situation or relationship.
Central to social competence is the ability to take another person’s perspective and to examine a situation from the view and feelings of the other. This also includes the skill of learning from experience, and applying that learning to future social situations, sometimes called ‘transfer gain’.
Social competence scopes to include effective communication, working well with others, conflict resolution skills, and avoids victimisation. A socially and emotionally skilled person has self-knowledge and the ability to manage emotions and spend time for self-care after events and situations that elicit new or unanticipated reactions (such as emergency, disaster, sudden loss or passing of loved ones, grief and bereavement, like this).
Social competence also has a skill that requires intuition, and the ability to discern the ‘unwritten rules’ or scripts that govern all social interactions. Success – or acceptance – or mastery of a social environment – is all about knowing how to behave according to the ‘unwritten rules’ of a group and obtain desired outcomes. Social norms include the unwritten rules of behaviour that are considered acceptable in a group or society. In the urban lingo, some say, in order to get along, you need to go along. This is one way of learning the unwritten rules.
Good character has many elements, which include the practice of human values, mind management and a tidy mind with strong boundaries. A tidy mind is something that is built over time. Knowledge, skill, balance, insight and identity form a tidy mind. Purity of thoughts, words and actions build right action and good character, which unfolds to performance character.
Social Competence and Ascension
When we look to Ascension and all it brings in its retinue, the central point is the embodied human soul. And the thoughts, attitudes, behaviours, beliefs that are attendant to that embodied soul. There are the habits that one has, the food that one eats, the environment that we are in and the thoughts that we think – all these add up to the person we are, the health we have, the purpose we have for living. These are all part and parcel of what we call social competence.
When we look to Ascension we could consider the Akashic records, Angels, Archangels, Arcturians, Sirians, Pleiadians, Hathors, Ascended Masters, Ascension body changes and Astral travel. These are all elements of what we have been reading, discussing, chatting about on Whats App and Facebook groups. However, we cannot expect to have the long-hoped-for experience of Ascension and all that is in its retinue unless we are people of good character, human beings practising the five human values and thus embodying human flourishing. We need social competence in order to bring about planetary-wide ascension. Our personal energy field, our vibration, rises with social competence. When that happens we get a critical mass of positivity, a critical mass of raising energy and matter to a new frequency, vibration, and layer of consciousness. We give that rise called Ascension to other humans, men and women, the aged and children, all who live on this planet.
Human life takes many forms in this world, and in the worlds that surround our galaxy, our universe. The universe, we have been told, is literally ‘teeming with life’. That life is human life, whatever its form. Human life – whatever its form – has capacity for introspection, self-awareness and the practice of values that guide behaviour – which lead to true humanness. Social competence is the foundation-stone of true humanness.
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